On Civilization, Feminism and “Manning Up”

If civilization is a machine then men are the fuel that makes it run. From the simplest hunter-gatherer community to the most complex world superpower it is men that make civilized society possible. It is men who wrestle control of the land away from the wild beasts and tame rugged terrain to create roads and cities, it is men who fight to earn and subsequently protect territory, and it is men who do the dirty and thankless jobs required to keep the ship of civilization afloat.

The primary reason that men join together in all of these endeavors, indeed the reason that society is an appealing prospect to them in the first place, is that having a society allows more men to participate in the mating game:

 You see, all throughout the animal kingdom, motherhood is a pretty common theme. It is positively everywhere! What is not common in the animal kingdom however, is fatherhood. Nope, not too many baby deer know who their fathers are. Fatherhood is a foreign concept in most of the animal kingdom.

Female mammals often find themselves living in a herd filled with many other females, all being bred by one dominant alpha male. The females congregate in herds because it is the only way they and their offspring can safely survive.

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But, one must wonder, what happens to the males that don’t become the alpha male who breeds the whole lot of women?

Well, when a male reaches sexual maturity, he must challenge for breeding rights within the herd. Those males who fail to successfully challenge the alpha males become beta males, and get forced to leave the herd by the alpha. The beta males generally end up living on the fringes of the herd/society where they fend for themselves individually.

 So if the inability to participate in the rearing of children is the defining characteristic of most males in the animal kingdom then it is literally the concept of marriage that separates us from the animals.

 Remember all those beta males who were existing outside of the herd, living on the fringes of society? They were only exerting 20-30% of their potential labour to survive.

Once married and attached to their own children, these beta males were suddenly yoked like an ox and working at 100% capacity. This utilization of the full capacity of male labour is what pulled mankind into a civilization. It is what built our houses and planted our corn. It built our roads and our bridges. It created our literature and our art. It created, well, pretty much everything that we have. Men, women and children all obviously benefited from this.

 When a man and a woman entered into a marriage contract it offered the man the opportunity to have children of his own and the woman protection and care for herself and the children which she would bear to the man. This is the bedrock of civilization.

As already pointed out in the first paragraph, men do the vast majority of the heavy lifting in every civilization, literally as well as figuratively, so pun very much intended. The system that naturally arose out of this arrangement is one based largely on hierarchy. A doctor commands more respect than a coal miner for example, despite the fact that they fill different functions in society, simply because being a doctor takes more training and requires a keener mind. You see the same hierarchy arrangement in military command. A general commands more respect than a foot soldier because he has put in his time and has earned his position of honor.

Ok, are you still with me? Good. Now that we’ve established the groundwork I’m going to shift gears and open up the throttle a bit.

So here we are in our shiny new civilization. Things are humming along nicely with the men going into the world to carve out a living for themselves and their families while their wives maintain the home and tend to the children. The system is working as intended. But along comes feminism telling women that they have been given the short end of the stick. That somehow it’s unfair that they are stuck toiling in the home while their husbands are out toiling at a job. Women should be allowed to toil at a job too! So society changes the rules in the middle of the game. Now a woman can choose to either be a stay-at-home-mom or she can climb the corporate ladder right alongside the men. And in addition to a having a career she can also have sex outside of a marriage contract with any partner(s) she chooses. There were of course many other results of feminism but these are the two that are pertinent to our discussion today.

We’ll start with the career. It must be pointed out that some women have always been in the workforce. Women in the workforce didn’t come about as a result of feminism, it merely changed the culture’s view of women in the workforce. Prior to feminism, according to our societal contract above, a woman’s place was in the home with the children. A woman who worked for a living was existing outside of the system as it was designed. It happened, but it was rare and un-celebrated. By pushing women into the workforce en masse feminism created two new problems:

First up is the wage gap. Women were initially paid less than men for doing equal work. This had nothing to do with undervaluing the contributions of women and everything to do with keeping society going. Think about it. The men were working to support themselves, their wives, and their children. Most of the new career women were working for self-actualization and personal fulfillment. Which workers are more important to a society’s health? Oh, and by the way, things have changed since then. The modern wage gap is a myth. Not only are women making equal money for equal work but in some demographics women now actually out-earn their fellow men.

Second is the disruption of the hierarchy. Women wanted to work because they wanted respect and fulfillment, and you don’t get either of those from being a plumber. So we had an influx of women heading straight for the cleanest, most comfortable and highest paid jobs on the market. Think about the job categories that are dominated by women:

Medical
Teaching
Billing
Human Resources
Secretaries
Administrative Assistants
Customer Service

And where are they least represented?

Construction
Bricklayers
Mining
Carpenters
Truck Drivers
Electricians
Plumbers

Seeing a pattern here? So what you end up with is men getting booted out of the cushy jobs they’ve spent the last couple hundred years creating and pretty much the only jobs that the women are leaving them are the dirty thankless jobs that they don’t want to do themselves. And make no mistake, the ladies don’t want to do them. When’s the last time you heard the talking heads discussing how unfair it is that men are hogging all those good coal mining jobs? I rest my case.

Onward to the sexual side of the equation. There has been much handwringing regarding the inequality of men and women in sexual arena. Why is man who has sex with many women considered to be a stud while a woman who does the same thing is shamed as a slut? It’s so unfair! Well, hold on just a second there. Let’s take another look at our budding civilization:

You see, the feminists always leave out that the woman sold her sexuality and took something in exchange for it: The man’s surplus labour.

And benefit from a man’s surplus labour the wives of the past most surely did!

She benefited by no longer having to rely on the Communist lifestyle of the herd for her survival.

When in need of protection she pushed the man out the door first to deal with the danger, rather than rely on the size of the herd, hoping it would hide her from harm when the weak stragglers get taken down by the wolves.

She benefited enormously by increasing the amount of labour available to her, giving her the ability to live in a wooden house with a real roof, rather than sharing a grass hut with a bunch of other women.

Women took something very real in exchange for selling their sexuality. They took a man’s labour as their own, and they benefited from this in almost every way imaginable.

So did the children she mothered benefit a great deal, and so did society in general.

The societal contract states that men will do the grunt work to keep the civilization going and protect the women and children. That’s their end of the bargain. The women’s end on the other hand puts less emphasis on what they do and is instead more concerned with what they don’t do. That being every Tom, Dick and Harry who winks at them. Sure, there have always been a small number of loose women but they have traditionally been shunned by society in general and by other women in particular, and these loose women were never even in the running when a man was ready to find a woman with whom to settle down.

You can look at this arrangement as being unfair if you want, but comparing the sexuality of men with the sexuality of women is comparing apples to oranges when you look at it from the perspective of the societal contract. The reason that single women are ostracized for their sexual exploits is that according to the contract women’s primary responsibility in society is to provide the men with the opportunity to have children. By sleeping around rather than settling down with one man she is thumbing her nose at the contract that makes the very society she lives in possible. A single man who does the same thing is not.

So to summarize, men and women work together within the framework of a societal contract. This contract stipulates that men should work to take care of their families and women should stay home and raise them, and for a long time this system was working well. But now, thanks largely to feminism, we are living in a time in which men can no longer provide for a family on one income alone because women flooded the workplace and demanded equal pay. We are living in a time in which most of the appealing jobs have been taken over by women while the most physically taxing and lowest in status are left to the men. And we are living in a time in which women are spending their prime reproductive years sleeping around with alpha males and trying to climb the corporate ladder instead of getting married and starting a family. Then, when these women are used up, saddled with baggage and/or a couple of kids and tired of working full-time, they want to settle down with a beta male provider. They are pulling up to the train station in their thirties and asking, “Where have all the good men gone?”

Which brings us to the call to “Man Up”. You see, our civilization is crumbling. It seems that men are beginning to shirk their societal duties. Rather than settling down and putting their shoulder to the plow many men are simply dropping off the radar, choosing instead to fill their time with pursuits of leisure and fun. But what the feminists and many men themselves don’t understand is that these Men Going Their Own Way are not the ones shirking their duties at all. They are simply joining the exodus of women in returning to the old system. On the savannah, you will recall, a young male only expended about 30% of his energy to create a life for himself. The only reason that these beta males started giving 100% in the first place was because it was in their best interest to do so. By getting married and working their tails off they were earning access to sex and the ability to raise their own children. But that’s not the deal on the table anymore; feminism changed all of that. And it only stands to reason that if a modern woman can choose whatever lifestyle best suits her desires and needs then we must make the same acquiescence for the man. After all, what’s good for the goose is good for the gander. And in a world of piss-poor career choices, mancessions, 50% divorce rates and indentured servitude via the child support system, continuing to blindly follow the societal contract after the women have stopped abiding by it just makes you a chump.

So you see, men not “manning up” is only the symptom, feminism is the cause. According to the old pre-contract rules as long you are pulling your own weight you don’t owe society a darn thing. If you, as a man, want to scrape by with a menial job and spend all of your free time playing video games or even doing absolutely nothing at all then that is your prerogative. It’s only the contract between men and women that says men ought to be doing more than the bare minimum, and women are the ones who shredded it – not men. Of course the rub is this: society needs men to continue running the ship or the civilization will fail. A civilization can chug along, however poorly, with women not holding up their end of the bargain as long as men keep doing the grunt work. But if men abandon their posts, if they stop doing the dirty work that keeps this machine running, then it’s game over. It’s back to the savannah for the lot of us. Deep down everyone knows this is true and that’s why the feminists are cranking out the male shaming and “manning up” articles like there’s no tomorrow – because if all of the men suddenly decide that the rat race just isn’t worth it anymore, there won’t be.